Therapy helps to clarify, reflect on, understand life, and heal through relating. Do you find yourself having the same argument over and over? Do you need support for emotional processing? Do you feel lost in life and are looking for meaning? Do you want to feel closer with your partner/s? Do you want to know who you are? These are questions we can address together. My name is Taylor, and my pronouns are he/him. I describe my therapeutic style as Psychodynamic in concert with Existential work. I am also trained in Thanatology/Death and Dying. I work with individuals, trauma, and relationships. I work to be supportive, understanding, and present. I will be open to your feelings and thoughts during difficult times and create a safe and secure to address the hurt, trauma, memories, and things you may be avoiding.
The unique needs and goals you have will influence the amount of time we work together, what our focus will be, and how far we reach. We will check in regularly about the progress we are making and change as needed during our time together.
I earned my Bachelor of Science in Psychology, my Masters in Clinical Counseling Psychology, and my Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. I use a variety of methods, including EMDR, Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy" (ISTDP), Existential, psychoanalysis, Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Ego State/Parts work (EST) and more to explore how your early experience has influenced the way you see yourself, the world, and get along with others as well as how it is going today. I work with clients everywhere on the gender and sexuality spectrums, relationships formations and status, and multiple non-majority spiritual paths. I also use techniques from the Gottman method, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, and other couples and marriage models.
Selecting a therapist is the beginning of a new relationship. I like to offer a 15-minute phone consultation so you can get an understanding of me without the pressure of commitment. Finding a therapist that fits you is the most important element.
I am a Licensed Psychotherapist working with:
LGBTQ+ Affirmative Therapy
Relationship(s) and Couples Therapy
Sexuality and Gender
Sexual/Relationship Minorities/Poly/Kink/Sex Work Friendly
Partners/Persons in the Entertainment Industry
Death and Dying
Grief and Loss
Purpose and Meaning
Relationships with friends, partners, family members
Addictions and Substance Use
What you can expect working with me:
I work from an interpersonal and relational frame. I use our relationship and connect it to the rest of your life. Inner and relational conflict is a combination of all the stuff that comes with being human, those inner pieces of you that were present the moment you existed, along with everything that happened along the way, forgotten memories, who and what we were raised with. We can talk about all these things, along with the parts of living that don’t always get talked about. At times we may confront some of these difficult truths about living. These can include, death, freedom, meaning in life, as well as feeling alone and seeking connection. I work with the content, what is said, and the process, what our words tell us about the nature of our relationship and others you have. These go together to help us see how we engage in the world and what we may want to change about that. I work with an integrated range of styles including helping you identify what may be preventing you from engaging with life the way you, focusing on this, and working hard to change these patterns. Together we can address skills, information, practice, communication, and anything else we decide.
Together we can work relationally to clarify, reflect upon, and understand life. There is healing through relating and we will explore your emotions, your thoughts, motivations, and expectations of yourself and others. At time we will put our thoughts aside to focus on emotions, and focus on the specifics and patterns, to make something come alive here and now.At times we may want to find a different direction. This may be for our situation, struggles in our relationships, emotional pain, careers, or frustrating behaviors. At times we may be confused, feeling overwhelmed, or alone. It is possible to change what is currently problematic. Many of my clients have experienced violence, abandonment, betrayal, or childhood trauma growing up. The pain from this can lead to frustration, feel overwhelming, and can influence our reactions and memories. A goal of therapy is learning to thrive in the face of our troubles. Together we will work on decreasing the pain, and increasing feelings of wellness, contentment, and change with those we love. I practice a no secrets policy and work with the couple/relationship as the client.
Therapy can help with;
Getting a better understanding of yourself, your goals and values
Developing skills for improving your relationships of all kinds
Finding resolution to what brought you to seek therapy
Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety or discontentment
Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
Improving communication skills
Changing old behaviors and developing new ones
Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family, marriage, or work
Increasing your self-esteem, self-image, and boosting self-confidence
Relationship concerns and conflicts, longings or losses may well be the most common reason that people seek therapy. Every relationship can benefit from balancing its complexities. Challenges faced in relationships can include sex, needs of the partners, loss, changes, dealing with family dynamics, and others concerns.
Couple or marriage therapy may be the most effective way to address your concerns, improve the quality of your relationship as well as work towards mutual dreams. Couples therapy can help a couple work through a crisis, or at times, say goodbye. I enjoy working with LGBTQ+, opposite gender couples, multi-partner, and non-monogamous relationships. I am also kink/poly friendly. When working with a relationship I practice a "no secrets" policy, that means I work with the relationship as the couple and do not keep things from any of the partners unless it has to do with safety.
Being LGBTQ+ is not a pathology. For those who are LGBTQ+ the struggle stems from what happens to you or from your experiences. Gay and Queer affirmative therapy works with you to understand who are you, what life can mean, how we exist in an non-affirmative world, increase connection with ourselves and others, and reduce hurt.
If you chose to work with me, we will collaboratively work to increase and deepen how you understand yourself and your experience in life. We will explore your experiences, how you think, feel, act, and relate in the world. We will examine your relationships, your history, and meaning. Through this we will have a greater understanding of your past, your present, and make the changes you want for your future. People have many different motivations for coming to psychotherapy and everyone goes through challenges in their life, and while you may have successfully navigated through certain situations you've faced, there's nothing wrong with seeking out support when you need it. People have many different motivations for coming to psychotherapy. Some may be going through a major life transition (unemployment, divorce, new job, etc.), or are not handling stressful circumstances well. Some people need assistance managing a range of other issues such as low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, addictions, relationship problems, existential conflicts, issues related to aging, and creative blocks. Or you may be at a point where you are ready to learn more about yourself. Many people reach out during trying times for a helping hand. You are taking responsibility by acknowledging where you're at in life and making a commitment to doing something about it the by seeking therapy. Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you tools to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.
An amazing life is possible. Together we can explore the best ways to balance your life, your career, your self-image, and empower you to take charge. You don’t need to completely rearrange everything to find the best self-care. Adjusting the systems you have in place for success can be included in your therapy or on its own. Its about you, your life, and making it the best it can be.
If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis and needs immediate help, please call 911.
Cancellations—Please telephone my office 213-224-7995 at least one full business day when you need to cancel or reschedule an appointment, thus providing . I ask you to telephone because it provides a digital record and records the time you canceled.
I do accept cancellations via email, text, and phone/VM within the time frame to avoid a late cancellation fee.